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Welcome to º£½ÇÂÒÂ×-Blogs nasim1985...................
Everything happens for a reason.........so if someone is betraying you or you are betraying someone means you don't like that person or don't have any feelings for him/her........and there is no point in pulling this relation..........
Even if i am going to leave her but i will forgive her also because when there is no feeling then why to pull this relation.....and i will be happy too, because she has shown her dislike and no feelings for me..........

Regards,
Anil

thank you of your welcome

really some men who have wife ,they  love to have girlfriends , too .
there is not any problem in sex or feeling between them and their wife , but they can not leave their bad behavior !
i know surely there is a problem ! but this men say : we love and like our wife but we can not give up  some bad treatment ! the same we know about harm of smoking but  why we can't leave cigarette !


what is doing his wife ? leave or forgive until that this  unfaithful man give up his behavior ?

Nasim

Happened to me once with a girlfriend who strayed.
I went to bed with her friend.

Seemed fair.

did you avenge of her ???? after it did you be calm down ?could you forgive her?

Smoking can be left if wife's love will be dominating on him.........The man who is already married and having a GF means he is not satisfied with his , and if he is not behaving properly means he don't like his wife..........
Sex and feelings are not same....sex is a body needs and feeling comes from heart..............heartly things will be more important then bodily things...........

Regards,
Anil

but it is so hard if we see or know some things that we have not  knew it !
see some things about wrong of husband or bf ( or wife and gf ) it can break heart !

i hope no body do not experience this !

Its not a big issue (smoking or drinking habits)..........if he/she  wants can bring changes on his/her partner.........even having GF / BF can also be solved............if we talk to him or her there must be a solution............and if this things break our heart it means i was already determined or described in my mind how she/he should be and if doesn't matches i say my heart broken........then i can say there is a problem within me not with her/him.............

Anyway may i know what exactly pushes you to start this thread , i mean to ask you do you have any such experiences........

Regards,
Anil

no , i just like to discuss this subject !

it is so clear every body will face or did face to this subject one time !

Not necessarily..........that every body once in a life will face this problem...............


Regards,
Anil

Life is one, and when you're born and when u'll die, please ask those questions and try to find out the answeres!

abasu wrote:

Life is one, and when you're born and when u'll die, please ask those questions and try to find out the answeres!

Welcome to º£½ÇÂÒÂ×-Blogs............

Treason is when you betray your COUNTRY, not a person. So when you give away government secrets that's treason. If you take over command of troops and depose the commander, that's treason.

We don't commit treason when we betray our spouses.

nasim1985 wrote:

did you avenge of her ???? after it did you be calm down ?could you forgive her?

She was probably the most energetic and most adventurous lady I've ever known but it was probably coming to an end anyway so I held no hard feelings towards her.
I never told her, but I'd been with a few other girls whilst we were together so I have nothing to come on the blame front anyway. (I was a biker, what do you expect?)
However, do it once and she'll do it again so it was the big, bye bye.
I see it this way, a man gets out of bed with, at the time, nothing worse than a need for penicillin, but a woman can get a lumpy tummy and I see no reason to look after a kid that is nothing to do with me.

She married an old mate of mine, strayed again, married the next bloke and did it again.

I'm well out of it.

I think the appropriate word is betrayal, not treason.

ok i understood that "treason" is for country not for person
thank you dudes for your answers

i know it was so hard , maybe harder than loss mother or father

some time we think , we have to avenge ! this is the best reaction way !

i hope nobody do not experience it in their life , if their love be real 

anyway , the life carry on , every day pass so fast , just enjoy and enjoy of life . this is important , our moments never back again

mas fred wrote:

Happened to me once with a girlfriend who strayed.
I went to bed with her friend.

Seemed fair.

Yes very fair! 

aryavrat wrote:

Smoking can be left if wife's love will be dominating on him.........The man who is already married and having a GF means he is not satisfied with his , and if he is not behaving properly means he don't like his wife..........
Sex and feelings are not same....sex is a body needs and feeling comes from heart..............heartly things will be more important then bodily things...........

Regards,
Anil

But in my case I dont want to be a gf  of a married man
OR a wife of someone other's bf

aryavrat wrote:

Smoking can be left if wife's love will be dominating on him.........The man who is already married and having a GF means he is not satisfied with his , and if he is not behaving properly means he don't like his wife..........
Sex and feelings are not same....sex is a body needs and feeling comes from heart..............heartly things will be more important then bodily things...........

Regards,
Anil

I do agree with you but being not satisfied in your relationship is not a reason to have an affair. It is not only the men who do this but also women. The best solution is to work it out together, communicate and if it don't work out maybe it is better to split up.

The worst thing you can do to the other you love is being unfaithful. The lies you have to tell to be with the other, the trust you destroy and the deeply pain you cost to the other. Sometimes, when it comes out, couples talk and decide to try again but the trust you once had, is gone and it takes time to heal and to let it come back.
And sometimes the relation end after this new beginning anyway.

You said that sex and feelings are  not the same, true, but they belong together and you can not exclusive one with the other. Sex without feelings is just lust, with feelings it calls intimacy what you only can feel if you love the other.

I want to talk to you if you feel the same if your wife tells you she slept with someone else.
Because in your opinion it is not the same.
At the same time you give the impression that it is right to having affair(s) because it is a physical need.

think your love betray to you , can you sleep again with her/his? can you have sex with his / her?
not one ! more and more !you understand that he/she cheated on  you  more and more times !!

but now you can not leave him/her ! do you live with he/she  the same roommate ?? with out love with out sex ???

i think when we drown on this problem , we do not have choice unless abandon our impression s ,
i believe that :"betray " has not any Justifies ! even if your mate has  some problems !
of course i accept avenge ! if my love dosen't leave  his lusty affairs , i am happy that i did it the same himself !

I agree with you Primadonna..............

nasim1985 wrote:

think your love betray to you , can you sleep again with her/his? can you have sex with his / her?
not one ! more and more !you understand that he/she cheated on  you  more and more times !!

but now you can not leave him/her ! do you live with he/she  the same roommate ?? with out love with out sex ???

i think when we drown on this problem , we do not have choice unless abandon our impression s ,
i believe that :"betray " has not any Justifies ! even if your mate has  some problems !
of course i accept avenge ! if my love doesn't leave  his lusty affairs , i am happy that i did it the same himself !

That is a hard one to answer as each one of us has different ways of approaching and looking at the problem. In the extreme some have killed those who have betrayed them others have just moved on.

I for one would not, could not just be a room mate with someone whom I have shared intimate moments with and who may well be in another relationship.

Life is short move on and enjoy it. It is emotionally crippling to sit around and dwell on what might have been.

When we revenge means we have never loved her or him.......so its always good move on and enjoy the life............