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thisgracia wrote:

Hi, I am a Filipina. And I have an Indian boyfriend from Bangalore. He is a Muslim. I don't know if he can marry me as what he's asking me. Because I know their tradition. I m scared that by that time his Family will find a lady for him. We are currently working here in Dubai. Do I have to stop our relationship?

I can tell you from my own experience that an intercultural relationship is more difficult, but also more interesting than staying with familiar folks (and thus can be more enriching or more problematic, depending on how you manage it).
To work well, it requires great tolerance, open-mindedness and understanding from both partners.
Dogmaticism (of religious or other nature) is the opposite of this and will cause problems. It can only work if religion is unimportant to both, or both acknowledge (and support) that the other is allowed to follow his/her own way.
If your man wants to change you (in any way, not just religion), it shows that he does not love you but the woman he thinks you should be. This is not good! In that case, you should ask him if he would also change his religion (or whatever ways he wants you to change) for you. If not (which is likely) - walk away from the relationship: A one-sided one is not healthy and you deserve better!

Re: Your reply to Mr. Spanishpete's comment."I am sorry to say that you have some lack in understanding to what said before, and I attach this聽 link for you to watch and understand."

I reiterate- fyi, perhaps you should consider following your own advice there, eh?

I am confusing now.... Islam and Muslim are different or the same?聽 聽

who have to convert and who do not need? Muslim man does not force his wife to convert but a woman has to force her husband to convert?

Too many religions too many rules聽

why we have to make things complicated like that.... just marry who you want. After all, you marry a person not a religion.

Amen to that philosophy

kimluuthien wrote:

I am confusing now.... Islam and Muslim are different or the same?聽 聽

Islam is the religion, Muslim the person following Islam.
Same as: Christianity is the religion, Christian the person following it.

kimluuthien wrote:

who have to convert and who do not need? Muslim man does not force his wife to convert but a woman has to force her husband to convert?

Unless you marry in some antiquated and/or overly repressive jurisdiction, nobody needs to convert at all!
There might be social pressures to convert, but then you need to ask yourself if you really want to give in to such.

kimluuthien wrote:

why we have to make things complicated like that.... just marry who you want. After all, you marry a person not a religion.

Well said, but not easy to carry out in the real world ...

Hi

I think a lot of people just speak without knowledge and they trying to judge the God,
instead of follow the God words and orders,

I am not here to teach or talk about Islam,

If you want to follow your emotions and your minds,
and disobey your God orders, It is your short life and then The Eternal hell,

People make the Love and happiness before the God will,
and They will not find Happiness or the real love,
because everything, from the God,
and dont judge the God or religion through people act or lack of knowledge and education.

Just find Islamic reference and resource and get some knowledge

You are obviously not Moro, so forget about the religion part, totally. Just focus upon the "true" character of your "boy-蹿谤颈猫苍诲". Just follow your gut feelings.

The fact that you've brought the issue to a public platform, to begin with, is a clear indication that you have doubts, and serious concerns.

Again, just follow your innate intuition; thereby avoiding any lifetime mistakes. Think about it. Ok?

Best regards and good luck聽

Dear members please don't dragg religion in this conversation otherwise the chance is high it will close the thread.

As for the OP: talk with your friend about your issues, ,not on a site for expats.
If you really love each other and respect each other differences and culture than it must not be a problem.

Yasenabu wrote:

Ohh,
some people not Muslim and giving wrong decision about Islam,

I put here Islamic reference to you all people to read from the reference what about the marriage in Islam or any other article as ( meaning the God in Islam):




This website very good as reference for non muslim聽 but I dont know why somtimes blocked:


and I hope for some people to study about meaning God in Islam and understand it as much as they can,

or you can watch youtube channel Dr Zakir Naik
it is very important and easy to reach the ideas faster


Best Regards

Hi there Yasenabu
Spanishpeter Here,
was i wrong is what i said about marrage, or was i right

Hello everyone,

Please note that this thread is too driven towards religion and that the initial poster has only 2 postings. No feedback has been provided since her last intervention.

This thread will be closed shortly if the the initial poster doesn't react.

All the best,
Bhavna

I'd like to give you an advice since i have a similar experience, my wife and I share different religion (which neither of them are the mentioned one) if your boyfriend is open-mind and don't mind Civil Marriage it's the best way to do to stay in together no one have to convert, just sign some papers and you will be officially married you still have to register your marriage in your country (just registration the marriage is done by court in the first place) so by this you add also to your marriage paper (ex: no one need to convert religion, if divorced the wife gets.. etc..)

My country till now don't have civil marriage, so i had to go to another country to make the papers done and when i got my civil marriage i came back home and registered it.

Actually i had to go to Thailand (wife country) then travel again to Malaysia because in Thailand there was no Embassy for my country which is Lebanon i had to stay 3 months to do the paper work, and all this happened because neither of us accept the idea of converting but when you have a child in religious country the child must have a religion so basically it's up to the father religion (in a 3rd world country)

I hope my advice helped a little, if you're country already allow civil marriage your case is very easy.

Spanishpete
As I said earlier,
The best is what the God order and what he want from us,
Because He created us and he knows the best for us.

I think the indian ladies and girls very good option as wife and life partner.馃榾

@Bhavna. I've been a member for almost 4 yrs now. Is this a new rule? that if the poster doesn't respond nor react, the discussion will be closed???

drizarra wrote:

@Bhavna. I've been a member for almost 4 yrs now. Is this a new rule? that if the poster doesn't respond nor react, the discussion will be closed???

The OP opened a thread and hasn't responded since. This will not cause the closing but the posts going toward religion and that subject is a no no. Some subjects are very tense and to avoid problems we do not discuss it here. There are many other platforms with these goals to discuss.
After I warned there are still some members who just continued replying on the religion aspect and that can cause the closing.

As Bhavna stated earlier : if she's not replying and they continue on the religion aspect than she will close it very soon.

Primadonna wrote:

drizarra wrote:

@Bhavna. I've been a member for almost 4 yrs now. Is this a new rule? that if the poster doesn't respond nor react, the discussion will be closed???

The OP opened a thread and hasn't responded since. This will not cause the closing but the posts going toward religion and that subject is a no no. Some subjects are very tense and to avoid problems we do not discuss it here. There are many other platforms with these goals to discuss.
After I warned there are still some members who just continued replying on the religion aspect and that can cause the closing.

As Bhavna stated earlier : if she's not replying and they continue on the religion aspect than she will close it very soon.

I understand that the forum will be closed if the original poster doesn't respond in "months or years", but not "days" as for the menu title itself. "forum" where participants can exchange their own sets of unli ideas and views, not only for the benefit of the original poster but for other readers as well. I'm not a Muslim and i don't mind reading their different views on the topic even i'm not the person involved. I consider it as a learning process as it made me think once in a while on different topics/scenario that i may not experience at all.. what you meant by "posts going toward religion and that subject is a no no".. does it meant any topic can be discussed except religion?? now my response is irrelevant with the original topic of the forum. all people that commented here, on behalf of the OP, thank you all . as i guess.. the forum shall be closed at any moment >the end<

Thank goodness for that. Well done you馃榿馃榿馃榿

We're going off topic here by answering your questions.
Politics and religion are sensitive subjects where people can easily being rude, disrespectful and post hateful comments to others and that is what we do not want. The forum is active in almost every country of the world and in some countries these topics are very sensitive and it could cost the forum the right to be operational in these areas. This is not in the favour of the site nor for the expats who living there.
This is a forum to share experiences and information about expateriate.

Sometimes there are interesting topics where people could learn. No problem with this but... the OP asked our opinion about her love life, or better say, her doubts.
And soon it goes into the religion with pro's and cons, yes or no or but...
On the moment when it goes into religion, all those members, and myself included but only to explain, are off topic.

If you have an interesting topic to be discussed聽 be my guest and feel free to open a new thread but not on someone's thread.
Even her question is not for on this forum.
We don't know her nor her friend and we read one small part of her side of the story.
Most members are not capable to answer affairs聽 of the heart.
My personal opinion is that these things must be discussed and asked to them who are involved in that relationship.

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Well everyone I just unsubscribed. I will not be a part of a forum where someone religious nutcase is alowed聽 to shove Islam down any body's throats. Stay safe, kindest regards. T

Bhavna wrote:

Hello everyone,

Please note that this thread is too driven towards religion and that the initial poster has only 2 postings. No feedback has been provided since her last intervention.

This thread will be closed shortly if the the initial poster doesn't react.

All the best,
Bhavna

Hi everyone,

As already informed yesterday, i am closing this thread.

Please make sure to create topics relevant to expatriation only and as per the website code of conduct, refrain from posting any unnecessary personal issues and religious comments, so that we maintain the quality of not only content but interaction as well.

Thank you,
Bhavna

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