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@Yassim M its normal my partner is always at the coffee shop

@Yassim M

It's definitely normal. It's also seen in some cafes weird if a female goes. U find many that all you will find inside are men. It's definitely a part of a man's everyday life there.

yeah so normal.  equivalent of english men going to the pub.

@Xxscotlssxx Oh really? i though it was normal only for not married men …. I mean, going everyday

@mishiii thanks. but i dont think english men attend pubs everyday!!

@Yassim M my fiance also does the same. He said its normal. He said there are Cafes for only men but there are also cafes for both men and women. When i travel to Morocco to join my fiance he will take me to a cafe where we can chat and drink coffee togeather

@Yassim M hahah im not english i wouldnt know. me and my ex fiance would also spend our evenings in coffee shops more respectable ones than the ones men go to their often quite shabby

First, it depends on the coffee shop. Some are filled with guys who spend all day drinking coffee, gossiping with friends, and glued to their phones. If your friend's boyfriend hangs out in a place like that, I can see why she's concerned—it might be a bit much.

My mother-in-law always forbade her sons from going to coffee shops. She was worried they'd turn out lazy and useless 😂.

My husband never went to coffee shops and is quite busy with work. He doesn't have time anyway, but his friends who do go, well, they're not exactly climbing the success ladder. How could they?

Then you have the more modern coffee shops, with high-quality coffee and food. These are frequented by people who are actually working and just taking a break or working from their phones. If he goes to one of those, it's fine—it's a more mixed crowd.

But yeah, if she's not okay with it, she should definitely bring it up!

@Yassim M many English men go the pub everyday after work.

My morrocan partner goes to the cafe most days after work with his colleagues or to smoke sisha.

It's very normal for them

He's probably wanting some me time and some space, so allow it. Being around the same person 24/7 isn't healthy, you need a good balance.

It sounds like insecurity to me.

Maybe recommend a social life.

Do something for a couple of hours.

The country is riddled with coffee shops. Way too many if you ask me. They are usually right next to each other 3,4,5 in a row and are usually packed and profitable. In Egypt this created  a huge problem that drove the divorce rate thru. the roof which lead the authorities to implement a new closing time for all coffee shops. This is a major problem in my opinion as the burden of raising the children rests solely on mothers. Mothers certainly cannot raise boys to become hunters just the same way men cannot  raise girls to become good wives / mothers. From a religion perspective this also takes away from remembering the Creator as a lot of these shops don't provide a prayer area for salah. Big no no for me.

@Yassim M

Hi Yassim that's quite normal, I'm British and my friend is Moroccan and we go to the café every day when I'm over there. It's very much a cultural thing, nothing to worry about.

Find something for you to do like a hobby, Be sure to  enjoy YOUR time mentally and physically while he's out. Be sure and tell him to have a good time. Smile and look away. But it's normal for them to want to go drink coffee but it's not normal to spend all day there as if you're not at home.

@martinjstone: Yes, it's normal for Moroccans but for a western / European woman it will become a nightmare. Western / European women are more clingy to their  partners with respect to conversations, going shopping, doing things together and other things than Moroccan women are to their partners. They are more family oriented and tend to cling more to the women in their family for conversations, shopping etc. This is why they usually don't have an issue with their men going to coffee shops. It's the culture: men hang with men and women with women. Won't go over well with westerners / Europeans especially if they don't speak the language. This will cause many lonely days and nights which will certainly lead to fights and ultimately divorce. May Allah help us all. Ameen!