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Honestly, reading some of these stories is heartbreaking. But as there are multiple analogies for this statement, I鈥檒l just say there are two sides to every coin. Both parties are to blame. The naivety of individuals and the impracticality of not looking at the bigger picture.

Irrespective of the country or the society, when a place loses its values and morals that once made it gleam, corruption will take over. But ultimately, it is the older men and women who must remain vigilant and educate because young adults and teenagers won鈥檛 change unless they have gone through the same experience or on the rare flip side, are mature enough to be always wary.

I鈥檓 not stating this applies to anyone specifically on the 海角乱伦 site, but generally speaking, why are older women and rarely older men acceptable to younger men / women? Is it because of love? No, it actually isn鈥檛, because love can be organic or inorganic. Census and history shows us that, in extreme cases where there are large age differences, those older women and rarely older men just want to feel a sense of longing, a sense of being accepted by society or even for the first time - by this I mean being in an meaningful relationship and/or the potential to marriage. Marriage doesn鈥檛 even have to take place to fulfil those criterion, because said people can say they are in a (long distance) relationship for X period of time and marriage on the horizon.

And let鈥檚 be honest, after a certain age, women and men lose their desirability, so where does that leave them in terms of potential partners? Even older men and women? Perhaps, but so few and little to no chance in procreating. Similar age? I think older women and older men are wary of being with someone the same age because said people may have had past relationships that didn鈥檛 work out (i.e., now divorced), so those older women and men who want meaningful relationship don鈥檛 want to face that - there is also the factor of children existing or may be involved, which can always complicate things if you are 鈥榝orced鈥� to be a second mother so fast. So that leaves an abundance of young men (and rarely young women) for those older individuals.

I personally don鈥檛 advice anyone to have a relationship with someone far younger than them unless it is in your home country or in person. Especially Maghrebi men. These cases are not exclusive to foreigners and do happen to Moroccan (and to a greater extent, Maghrebi) women, too, but you don鈥檛 hear about it often because it is harder to evade accountability.

I鈥檝e said this before in another thread, but I鈥檒l say it again. Don鈥檛 let out your heart on the internet, no matter how charming an individual is. Meet them at least once in real life (video chat doesn鈥檛 count) and look at what they do for you or don鈥檛 do for you before you base your judgment about them. Women tend to be very good are identifying based on body language, so use that instead of being in a daze. Ask him/her scary questions about how they would react if something happened to your finances and analyze their answer to their lifestyle. Is it realistic? In my experience, many young Moroccan men fear commitment and will flea if the sound of children is mentioned. And finally, look a person鈥檚 character, not their outward appearance. Ask them private questions like if they watch adult content or whether they would watch adult content with you (don鈥檛 tell them your preference before you ask this question). The answer will either be truthful or a lie and it would be pretty clear.

I do think its strange when a young man wants a much older lady.
Also its very natural for a man to like younger ladies
But does a young lady want an older man for love. I think some do like a more stable and older man.
I do think where there is economic disparity people should think twice
About relationship

Hi,

So no one bats an eyelid when an older man dates a young girl..but the other way round is not ok?

Thats a very narrow minded view...and trust me a lot of older men also supply financial advantages to the younger girl..as they have already established themselves and can provide a better living standard..

Not all younger men want young girls, especially in Morocco, as young girls want babies (plural) and not every man is on the same page..they want a life before settling down and travel and the older the girl gets, the worse she is looked upon...

I don't think it's the matter of bashing the other way round.
It is another topic if the agreement is clear and the mature lady/gentleman wants to be in a "relationship" that is majorly based on exchanging, let's say, services and company.

Here there is bashing of people that know that the second person emotionally falls for them and is in love, but they are not themselves. Yet they keep the image of being in love as well just to get married and benefit from it. This will devastate the second person as (no matter how naive we consider it to be), they hoped for the real love and finally having someone next to their side.

To me, the first arrangement is not to be judged as both parties involved know what they are signing up for.
The second one I condemn.

I think that with a substantial age difference (hard to say precisely, let's say 8 years and more?) the person needs to be wary and well think of what they are getting into. Regardless of the nationality of the partner. It can be a true love story. But it also can be an exploitation. And the risk IS getting higher if someone is falling so hard for your whereas you cannot have proper dating, intimacy or just some life hurdles that you go through together.
Another thing is, what do you actually know of the person if you only contact online? You limit yourself very much to experiencing people behaviours. Behaviours that come to light only when you spend a lot of time with them personally. It is easy to be sweet, polite, understanding and loving when it comes down to write a text or throw a phone/video call now and then.
In my mind, the core personality and when we can evaluate if this person actually matches you, reveals itself in some every day situations or reactions you cannot hide as good in reality. And this is the problem in online long distance relationship like that. You simply don't know and need to trust your guts. It would be advisory to meet each other as much as possible before going for big step. Travelling by both people would be advised.

It may be that even a person is not a scammer, but how many times it happened that we thought we knew the person we are with and keep on dating or being in a relationship.听 Then only after a solid time and perhaps even living together it resurfaces that once the struggles of real life hit, you are/aren't well matched to resolve them.

Another thing is, you need to ask yourself a question if you can get rid of the doubts eventually. Let's assume the person is genuine and hears you still think they might be a scammer. That would be devastating to them as well. Also, it may happen that the second person actually will have troubles moving or finding a job for a while. Especially in covid recession times. Will you be a supporting partner? or the gloom of a thought "ah yeah, I should have known, (s)he might have actually wanted that. Maybe they just always wanted me to provide for them all the way?". Then no matter how genuine person is, these doubts will sooner or later blow up and make things worse in my opinion.

I wished people who are writing here their stories would come back to us and shared what was true or not . Now when you read theym they only plant the seeds of suspicions, but no resolution.
It's like reading a book planting all possibilities in your head and then you see that the final chapter was torn out. You are left only with these thoughts what could there be.
And sadly, usually, people don't really go to the internet forums to spread the word how happy they are and how it turned out. They share the happiness with the close ones and that's more than enough. You mostly go to the forums to release the negative emotions like anger/uncertainty. So the stories or inner struggles that you need to let out of your chest but maybe you don't want your immediate social circle to be aware of.

Yes guys don鈥檛 Marry if they can鈥檛 have kids

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Dougherty Olivia wrote:

Yes guys don鈥檛 Marry if they can鈥檛 have kids

Sshhhhh. That's supposed to be our secret. Those older white western women dating/talking to young men are not supposed to know this fact. So please. But on a serious note, it is refreshing to hear this from a white western woman.

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Yes, yes and heck yes!!
I married a Moroccan man.
Don't do it. He is playing.

Yes, he is playing with you. He wants to get out of Morocco. Don't fall into the trap that I did.
He is the most loving man as long as be is in Morocco, but as soon as you marry and he gets in your country, he will ignore you and reject you. He will also show just how lazy he is.
They are handsome, but they are as romantic as听 broom.
Trust your instincts. S
DONT DO IT!!!

What is his name

Sorry I听 just ask to see if I know him

What is his name maybe I know him

If his name is Badr then yes, douche canoe 100%

And most Moroccan men will marry if a white western can鈥檛 marry. I can still have kids and my partner who鈥檚 Moroccan accepts if I can or if I can鈥檛 so let鈥檚 not stereotype all Moroccan men

MissDia02 wrote:

Hello, I am from America. I am in Morocco now because I am marrying my Moroccan man. Let me know how it is going with your Moroccan man. Mine is 27 years old and I am 34 years old. I pray that he does not play me. I feel that he loves me and wants to be with me for the rest of his life. Most of Moroccans are good at lying and playing games. If their Moms always be around them and their loved ones and are trying to control them or doing something like that, that means they just want them to get visas or money from their loved ones for supporting them and their families. Mine is not but I have to watch their moves and read their body language since I am deaf and I can't hear.

That's not nice. Lol

I met a Moroccan man on Instagram.

He is 35 I am 56. I have told him I am older his reply is age is just a number. We've been chatting for 9 months now and have alot in common during this time I have spoken to his mother, brother and sister. He has told his mother he loves me and wants to marry me. I do love him but its the age gap that worries me. Any advice

When I was 35, my mother was 55. At that age, I looked at my mother and everyone else as old looking. God forgive me, now. Use your common sense. If he can support you and himself and has his own house, then maybe his feelings are true. If he hasn't and financially struggling, then it's fake and looks at you as way out. Just my opinion as a man.

@claudia576听I really like your opinion听

@soufiantahiri4 thanks

@itsmebtches22 What is the name of this Movie you say is good

@act2373 I been married 2 months with this guy from Morroco we talked 2 years and after I came back to America he changed听 totally I see his real side bit is too late I married him in Fes Morocco and now I dont know what to do

@aitsaadanezakaria1 no