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Hello, for respect to your privacity I will refer just the legal options: In all legal system there is an old reliable doctrine for divorce: The State cannot obligate any couple to live together which is the pilar of the matrimony. Therefore, oppositions to terminate the marriage are irrelevant.

The most to do is ask the Judge for a marital therapy at the moment of the mandatory mediation stage. The Therapist would determinate if there is any solution or not. However, it's just a mediation, no obligations.  In addition the TRC is up to the sponsor, who cannot be forced to renew it.

Hence, if there is not any property to devide,  do not spend much money in attorneys

This situation is entirely my fault. I was the one who broke promises, etc. Disregarded her and was lazy. Didn’t want to work and would just sit in front of the building every night drinking large amounts of alcohol. Which made me look bad in front of her and the neighbours and was often mentioned to her.
I did not treat her with the respect or kindness, at times, which she deserved.

I’m back in the U.K. now awaiting a surgical operation, but I want to return soon to try and save our marriage.

I have sent her messages to admit that I was wrong and wish to try to be better and to send her money to support her and my step son. But, she just fired back her anger that she has gained nothing from the marriage, and also refuses financial help. Now, she is ignoring me.

I really need to talk to her face to face and as I have a TRC for a spouse, I am registered to stay with her at her address. Which she may not be too keen on. She may just explode at me. It’s a gamble.

I want to oppose the divorce, and think I would need to get a lawyer there, too. Around how much is that likely to cost?

Maybe, I should just give her time and space to cool down as she tends to be very emotional.

The same happened when I returned to the U.K. last year after delivering nothing, but I managed to convince her to stay with me.

Will I never learn?

Sorry for the rant and any advice would be much appreciated. - @Earlyant

If yourPost is only about avoiding divorce, listen to the good advice by @ajairon

If you're true intention is about making amends with your wife (and her family) then you've got a ton of work to do and I hesitate giving you my opinion as to what's necessary, since it will probably appear to be quite critical.

If you're open to hearing my best advice--My opinion--I will do my best to be as respectful as possible in reply

@Earlyant

You might want to take a look through the Vietnamese Family Law Act.

In the first post of that thread you'll find a link to the act. There, do a search for the word "foreign".

Good luck.

I don't know about the specifics in Vietnam, but as a general rule, if one party wants a divorce there's nothing the other party can do to prevent it.

I don't know about the specifics in Vietnam, but as a general rule, if one party wants a divorce there's nothing the other party can do to prevent it. - @Malcolmleitrim

Same in VN, since 2014 (if I recall).

@OceanBeach92107

Thank you very much and any advice would be much appreciated.

I am at a loss about the best thing to do at the moment.

Because of me shattering her dreams, she is completely ignoring my messages or my attempts at reconciliation.  She is no fool. She did mention that she gave me another chance last year. Why have I been so complacent?

Maybe, she just needs more time and space for her emotions to settle.

I am giving serious thoughts to cancelling the operation and returning soon, because I genuinely want to try and save our message. But, that has many pitfalls and could just make things worse.

Insisting on having to stay at the same address as her due to TRC being registered to that address, and insinuating that she could get in trouble with the police if I don’t, which I think is right, would probably result in her exploding.

Geez, I’m an idiot. Never appreciate what I have until I’ve lost it.

@Aidan in HCMC

Sincere thanks, I will take a look at that information.